When it comes to dating, I sometimes wonder how some couples end up together. Do they really appreciate their partners and do they really get what they deserve? Why don’t they look elsewhere if they don’t?
I think a big part of the problem is that few people really know what a healthy relationship is these days. We don’t know how to be a good partner anymore. The following list will help you determine how the ideal man should act with his spouse if he wants to ensure a prosperous and enjoyable relationship.
1. No one plays games with each other.
Often we make our relationships more difficult . These difficulties begin when honest conversations turn into simple text exchanges feelings become subliminal, sex becomes a simple game, the word “love” is taken out of context trust is lost, insecurities become daily, jealousy becomes routine, being uncomfortable begins to seem normal and running away from it becomes our solution.
We have to stop running away! It is important to face problems, to solve them, to communicate, to appreciate, to forgive and above all to LOVE the people in your life who deserve it.
And of course, if you think that someone is playing with you, don’t accept this and confront them directly in order to set the record straight.
2. Everyone is on the same page.
If a woman starts out in a flirty relationship with a man, and never tells him that she is actually looking for a serious relationship with him, chances are it will never become a serious relationship (and it works the other way around, of course).
If you give the impression to the other person that the simple flirting, flirting stage is fine with you, then the other person will think you probably want to leave it at that.
It would be a shame to deprive each other of something that might make you feel good about each other, because of a simple misunderstanding or unspoken word, wouldn’t it? You have to be frank and say what you want, right from the start, or at least as soon as you have given it enough thought to know what you really want. Don’t beat around the bush, this will avoid false hopes for both of you. If you don’t want the same thing, it’s better to know it while there’s still time to back out.
3. The line of communication between you is open and clear.
You are not afraid to have certain conversations. It is better to talk and find out the truth than to walk blindly. Describe what you think . Don’t expect the people you love to read your mind, and don’t play with them. Don’t tell half-truths while expecting them to trust you when the full truth comes out – half-truths are no better than the fullest of lies.
Listen without defending yourself, speak without hurting the other part . Communication is not just an important part , it is the relationship itself. Many relationships break down because of problems with trust, commitment, and most importantly, communication. So don’t deprive yourself, and COMMUNICATE with each other. no relationship is perfect without communication .
4. Small loving gestures consistently reinforce small loving words.
Nurture your relationships so that when you tell your loved ones that you love them, it is hardly perceived as a ritual little reminder to remind them of something they already know from the way you treat them every day!
To tell the truth, you can say “I’m sorry” a thousand times or say “I love you” as many times as you want. But if you don’t prove that these words are the truth by acting accordingly, it never remains anything but that: beautiful words in the air.
5. Expectations of perfection are strictly forbidden.
Any sincere and true relationship will never be perfect. On the other hand, if you are willing to make concessions to your own expectations of perfection, this relationship can become the most beautiful thing in your life. Your best friends or your half may be far from perfect, but they’ll still be perfect for you. Give them a chance to prove it.
When you stop expecting people you love to be this way or that way, that’s when you start appreciating them for who they really are. You have to realize that every relationship has its problems, but what can make a relationship perfect in the end is when you don’t want to change it for anything in the world.
6. Honesty, vulnerability, presence are sacred things to you.
Even though it may sound risky when you say it like that, the strongest love is the one that makes you the most vulnerable. It’s about daring to reveal yourself to the other in an honest way, without veil and without make-up.
It’s about standing side by side in the calm or in the storm, and being present and close, physically and mentally, when you are needed most. So open up to each other. Be WITH the person you love.
Break down any emotional walls you may have built around you to protect yourself, and feel all the emotions fully and amply, from the best and most exquisite to the worst. This is real life. This is how you can make a sincere connection with another human being.
7. There is a healthy mix of individual freedom and teamwork between you.
Keep in mind that you can’t force someone to be with you or to love you. We cannot force someone to stay, when they want to go. And conversely, we should never feel trapped or stuck in a relationship that doesn’t suit us. In fact, if one person feels trapped, the relationship doesn’t really exist. Because that sense of freedom and free will is an essential part of the relationship.
It also need a solid foundation and some teamwork. When there are two of us, we need each other about as much as we need ourselves, and we need to know how to complement each other.
And it’s not always a 50/50 split. Sometimes you can only give 20% , and the other person will have to provide the other 80% to keep everything in place, and vice versa. The goal is not to always stay perfectly balanced in the middle, nor to try to calculate what one does in relation to the other.
A healthy relationship is two people who are ready to adjust to each other in real time, as needs and events arise… And who do not hesitate to make concessions and give a bit more when the other is forced to give a little less.
8. Personal growth is fully lived, celebrated and shared.
The purpose of a relationship is not to meet a person for whom you are lost, but rather to meet a person in whom you find yourself.
When you are truly connected with someone special, whether it is a loving partner or your closest friends, that person helps you find the best in you. It is through this kind of relationship that you grow and evolve into better people.
When you take a closer look at what you and the people you care about most add to each other’s lives, you will often see that instead of simply giving and taking things , (advice, answers, material things, etc.) you prefer to share them just as you share joy or pain, and live life side by side.
9. Outsiders do not have a say and do not have to interfere.
Deep relationships don’t always seem to make sense, especially for outsiders. So don’t let others take care of your relationship for you! If you have a relationship problem with someone, deal with that person ONLY, and no one else.
We all have our differences and our own passions, a fire that animates our own souls. It is up to you, and you alone, to say whether a relationship is “good” for you or not. This may be the main answer to that question, which sums it all up: The “right” person is the one you simply think is the right one.
You have to stop giving so much importance to what everyone else wants for you, and it’s time to live and decide for yourself.
10. You’re always texting each other all the time.
If you’re the kind of person who analyzes text messages in depth (no emoticons and a period at the end of the sentence?), you’ll be able to see what’s going on. ) or if you use your phone to monitor your partner, you’re distorting the relationship before it has a chance to start, says Patrick Schultz, a psychotherapist in Milwaukee.